Stinking Thinking, Self Doubt and Limiting Beliefs.

Self-Limiting beliefs are an impediment to any man’s progress.

Impact of belief on prosperity

A man and his beliefs are inseparable. He is what he believes. What he believes is what he sees. The way he sees the world; the way he dresses; the way he does business and with whom; his values on health, possession, money, prosperity, relationship, or anything that has to do with life in general, are all inextricably connected to his beliefs. Now

If you determined that a pig deserves better, you may decide to turn his sty into a parlour. You can then give him some straws for bedding and leaves for pillow, and decorated the walls of his parlour with flowers. Sooner rather than later, the pig will eat the flowers, trample the straw, scatter the leaves and turn his parlour back into a sty. The saying is true, “You can take the pig out of the mud, but  – You can’t take the mud out of a pig.” A pig is a pig, and he will always be a pig.

Change a man’s beliefs, and you will change him;

strip him of his beliefs, and you leave him destitute.

The willingness of a man to fashion his beliefs according to his desires, is the key to transforming his life, and the means by which he makes himself what he will. A man chooses his lot in life. That lot, be it his happiness and prosperity, success or failure, is the product of his beliefs. If he finds himself in a state of discontent by reason of circumstance, he can, by choice and effort change his conditions. In this regard, a man is the moulder of his destiny, the shaper of his future and the author of his prosperity.

To find moral principles is to have found prosperity...” – James Allen

There is a definite link between beliefs and prosperity. The parable is told of two men who decided to each build themselves a house. The first man chose to build his house on sandy soil, where it was easy to dig the foundations. The second man chose a rocky hill for his foundation, and built his house there.

In the process of time, the elements of nature, in the form of wind and rain and storm, came against the two houses. The house that was built on sand was swept away. But the house which was built on the rocky hill stood the test; it remained solid and immovable.

What this parable teaches us more than anything thing else, are these fundamental truths:

  1. All men are builders, be it natural or spiritual. Whether it’s career, finances, relationships, whatever.
  2. To all men have been given equal opportunity, unlimited resources and endless possibilities.
  3. Every structure will be tested.
  4. Compromise leads to ruin.
  5. Adherence to sound ‘building principles’ is the key to prosperity.

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He did his research, and finally decided to purchase a home in a community of his choice. After a few weeks of enjoying his new home and reading the local newspaper, he started noticing articles about a spate of break-ins and house thief incidences that were reportedly happening in his neighbourhood. Shortly there after, he got a call from the local security consulting firm. They suggested about home security. After sitting down with the consultant – who, by the way, confirmed these stories of thefts and house breaks – he is now firmly convinced that the the best way to secure his family and new investment was to purchase and install the best home security system on the market. Five thousand dollars later, he is now comfortably resting in his bed at nights. His mind is now at ease. When he reads of the continued thefts in the neighbourhood, he is no longer worried. He feels secured.

Irony is, this man did not know that the stories he read in the local newspaper were all fake. They were all made up by the local security company to scare the residents into purchasing security systems.

Question is, what caused him to invest five thousand dollars in a home security system? It was his beliefs. He believed the stories he read. He believed the security consultant, and he believed that five thousand dollars was a worthy investment in protecting his life and property .

What are Beliefs?

Beliefs are mental representations of an attitude positively oriented towards the likelihood of something being true or exists. Now, if that sounds too scientific, let me break it down for you. Beliefs are internal laws which are subconsciously setup within our mental framework, i.e., our mind. These laws serve to protect us against such things like loss, pain, hurts and defeat. They also encourage us towards adventure, risk and success.

The truth is, many of our beliefs are not even based on facts or even truth, but rather, have been formed by experiences, opinions, culture, influencing factors and people, such as, parents and friends, social media and education. In fact, many beliefs that we hold in our hearts to be true, are based on lies. For example, there are many today who still believe in the “Myth of the flat Earth” – a myth that was perpetuated through lies (bigoted tale) about Christopher Columbus’s views and disagreements concerning distances, even though it was a well established belief, at the time, that the earth was spherical.

How are beliefs formed

Experiences in everyday life is one of the chief architects of beliefs. When, as individuals, we experience opportunities , we grade the outcome of those events as either negative or positive. Those scores are based on our expectations going into the event and our feelings coming out the event.

Suppose my young daughter going on her first date with a young man. Now, because this is her first date, she goes into that event with no experience, but she will certainly come out with one. Her expectations about men and dating are already pre programmed by what she has read, seen – be it in a movie or on TV, or what she has been told by her friends and other influencing individuals.

Let’s also suppose that the date went well. She looked gorgeous, she felt comfortable; the young man looked the part and acted the part well, and over all, she was well satisfied with the outcome.

If you ask my daughter if she believes that dating is a good thing, she will give you two thumbs up and say , Hell yeah. Further, if you ask her to give her perspective on young men and dating, she might say something like, ‘I believe that dating is the greatest gift given by God to any young couple who are in love.’ Why is this? All her expectations were either met or exceeded. And until something happens, that causes her to have a different perspective on men and dating, she will continue to believe what she believes.

Our attitudes towards things and people helps us to form opinions about those things and people. These attitudes are informed by our DNA, and they are specific for each individual;mit’s the way we were born. When a collective of those opinions are sufficiently obtained, they then combine to form a belief regarding those things and people.

Opinions are very powerful, especially when coming from influential people. If we regard someone as being authentic, what ever they say or do is received as ‘gospel’. If you find yourself in the company of successful people, and they share with you their stories to fame and fortune, you will eventually come to believe that your personal road to success should follow a similar path.

We live in culture-based societies. Whatever we do affect each other. The food we eat; the type of music we listen to; the way dress, are all culturally based. Our practices, for example, religious ones, are mostly based on what has been passed on to us by our parents. Culture has a way of informing our beliefs. People cannot truly live together unless they share the same beliefs. Can two walk together except they agree? We may work together, and do business with each other, but deep down inside most of those things are only done for mutual gains. A society may be termed ‘multicultural’, but when you get right down to residential roots of that society, you’ll find that people still live in cultural pockets.

In my early years of learning, I came to understand the politics of my country. Although the country was officially called ‘Land of six people’, it was predominantly inhabited by two races of people, who came from vastly different cultural origins. Hundreds of years and generations later, we saw a melting and blending of those cultures. However, the people still lived in regions and communities divided along racial lines.

The political leaders, armed with this demographic knowledge, used it for political advantages. For the people believed, like every other society does, that those who look like us and talk like us, will always do what’s best for us.

Parents and educators play a massive role in the formulation of beliefs. If a child is repeatedly told that he or she is ‘dumb’, and repeated efforts to prove otherwise fail, that child, sooner or later, comes to  believe that he or she is dumb.

This is why parents need to take the leading role in informing the beliefs of their children. For the mind, in its primal state, is like a blank slate. Early childhood is the time when most of our beliefs are permanently etched in the mind. Some of the things we have come to believe as true, even though they are lies, were informed when we were children.

The good news is, we can change our beliefs at any time; in fact, we do it all the time. We can believe one thing about someone or something today, and tomorrow, we change our beliefs about that same person or thing.

The effects of beliefs

Beliefs are what forms us and makes us who we are. They inform our decisions and controls our actions. What beliefs does, more than anything else, is, they guide our actions rather than leading us to truth. This is sad. For in so many ways, except we change our beliefs, we may never know truth.

A man’s beliefs forms the borders of his live. Where you are in life, right now, is a direct result of your beliefs. Whether you are in bondage or freedom, whether you are rich or poor, happy or sad, your beliefs are the keys to your status in life.

If a young woman believes that dating is ‘the greatest thing invented since slice bread’, she would be excited to go on dates. Whenever she is on a date, she is her best self. For her, dating is living within the realms of her beliefs, and that produces excitement.

Think of a young man, who lost both of his parents in a plane crash, now having to fly to a foreign country, in an aircraft, to identity the remains of his parents. Imagine, if you will with me, the hesitation and the trepidation of getting on that aircraft. The memories of his parents, and the thoughts of their final moments are fresh in his mind. Before this experience, he heard of the dangers of flying, and believed that tragedy can strike at any moment, but now his fears have come face to face with his beliefs. Forever, he will always associate flying in an airplane with death. Such traumatic experiences reinforces our beliefs, and if not properly dealt with, can cause long lasting  pain and sadness, that can affect an individual’s future actions.

If a man believes that there is an angry god somewhere, waiting to strike him with death if he  commits sin, he will spend the rest of his life walking on pins and needles, trying not to provoke this angry god. If  a man believes in integrity, his entire lifestyle will be one of honesty, uprightness and honour. Conversely, if a businessman believes that dishonesty is the way to prosperity, he will spend every waking moment  of his business life, trying to find ways how he may defraud his fellow businessmen and clients.

Your beliefs write the story of your life. They control the way you live and they will dictate the way you die. When you come to think about it, life and death are literally wrapped up in one word, belief.

 Relationship between thoughts and Beliefs

What Are Thoughts

Someone once said, “If you think strongly and attempt fearlessly, you will achieve masterfully.” And he who said so was correct, for there is a definite link between thoughts and achievements. However, actions must come into place before any results can be obtained. For a thought is just a thought unless it is put into action; just as a seed is just a seed until it is planted in the ground. Over our lifetime we may have millions or even billions of thoughts; some to honor and some to dishonor. Evil thoughts, angry thoughts, masterful thoughts; thoughts of every nature, fill the mind every waking moment of our lives. What we do with those thoughts are of absolute importance.

Within every human being there is the capacity for greatness. We have within us the capacity to act. The human person is so immaculately constructed from mind to body to spirit that he can accomplish anything god-like, if allowed to function without limits.

But where does the limits start and end? They start and ends with our thoughts! The Bible said, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” A man is the complete sum of his thoughts; his character being formed by them. If he thinks small, he will be small, for his actions will be small. If he thinks “outside of the box”, then no man will be able to contain him, for his action will break him out of every mould wherein he is restrained.

A quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson reads, “Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.” Thoughts are the source from which all actions spring. They, when left to themselves, are harmless yet potent. When sown into the mind and allowed to blossom and germinate, they produce fruit after their kind; just as a pumpkin seed, having been sown into fertile grounds produces a pumpkin harvest; left alone, it rots and dies. By the application of evil thoughts, a man forms himself into an evil personality, his actions being evil. By the same token, by the application of purer thoughts, leading to purer actions, a man ascends to a purer and more virtuous state. A mans thoughts are the means by which he moulds his character and shapes his destiny.

What does it mean to think positive.

“Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure,

whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”  How many have ever heard that statement before? Not many I suppose, for obvious reasons!

However, permit me for one moment to extract some key words out of that statement; and here they are: True, Honest, Just, Pure, Lovely and Good Report.

Now, here’s what I want you to do, find the antonyms of those words that I just extracted. As you come up with those antonyms, you will find that there is a negative connotation or stigma attached to each and every one of them. That is because the intent of the writer was to encourage his readers to think positive.

The mind can be intelligently cultivated, or be allowed to run wild. In its wild state, useless and base thoughts flourish; in its carefully guarded and cultivated state, wicked and evil thoughts are never allowed.

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